Nov 23

The Art of Deception

The Weekly Planning WorksheetHow do we Deceive our Brains into Forgetting Unhappy Things?

We do this by leveraging the art of deception, on ourselves. The idea is to trick our brain into forgetting unhappy things by adding more positive things. Full disclaimer – I am not a licensed clinical psychologist or in any way qualified to make claims or diagnoses in that realm of knowledge. These approaches are simply based on my experiences.

My Version of the Art of Deception

Here are a few techniques that have worked for me that you might try the next time someone upsets you at your day job.

  1. Train yourself over time to understand that you have no control over how other people will treat you, but you DO have total control over how you will react. This is an idea that has been articulated my many psychology and coaching scholars, but the most recent place I heard it was from Diamond Dallas Page (A former celebrated professional wrestling champion who has now created the incredible DDP Yoga workout that I enjoy very much).
  2. Make the move. Many times, we have thoughts or plans in our minds about how things can be better but we never vocalize them because we think we will be punished or fired. Well, I’m here to tell you that some jobs just aren’t worth the stress, and not all of the stress is created from the job itself. Much of it is often created by our fear to take action which creates self loathing afterward. So, my suggestion is to make the move that you have in your mind. More often than not, people will respect you for speaking your mind. Furthermore, usually no one will fire you for simply communicating that a situation is uncomfortable for you or an unacceptable request of your time. If they do, it wasn’t the right job for you, and you will most likely find something that is a much better fit soon, whether it is another job or your own business. In short, we typically feel happier when we have taken action whether or not that action has the desired result. We respect ourselves for having courage, and that creates a feeling of fulfillment.
  3. Avoid “multitasking”. Multitasking is a myth in my opinion, and only leads to unhappiness for you and others in the end. You are left completing multiple tasks poorly instead of completing 1 task to the best of your ability, which can leave you unfulfilled. conversely, the person with whom you are speaking is left unhappy because they feel like you are not listening to him. It’s just a good idea to avoid multitasking altogether. I realize that multitasking is a popular word that many people use to prove how busy or competent they are, but “Focus” and “Prioritizing” are always better ideas. You can accomplish this by drawing a simple table with 2 columns on it like the one I pasted here that I copied from a wonderfully informative book titled “The Business Coaching Toolkit” written by Stephen Fairley and Bill Zipp. You will list your priorities, both professional and personal for the upcoming week and then list the steps of action needed to finish those priorities. It takes about 30 minutes to compose your list weekly, and maybe 5 minutes per day to tweak it as you go along.You simply won’t work on things that are not on your list, so you are left working on ONLY things that are important to you. I’ve tried this with a coaching client who has found it to be incredibly effective. “The Business coaching Toolkit” describes it in much more detail if you are interested. It’s a very well put together book
  4. Create positive fulfilling activities that require daily attention. This can be starting a business or a blog in an area that makes you happy., and it doesn’t necessarily mean quitting your job if that isn’t the right move for you. For example, my job is currently very fulfilling for me so I have no reason to leave. However, I also have no reason to hesitate in pursuing my writing, coaching, and other things that make me feel fulfilled. It can be something hat you work on during the evenings or weekends. You might create blog content, create products and services to sell, complete certification courses, and attend to your new customers. This way, you are forced to work on those activities after your normal work day ends, and there is no time to linger on negative things that made you unhappy. Our brains can only focus on a limited number of things at a time. I believe the research suggests 5-7 although my brain is not nearly this adept :). We can consider those buckets of focus. If we fill all our buckets with positive things, there is simply no room for negative things.

So, How do we Deceive our Brains into Forgetting Unhappy Things?

We do it by creating a go-to treasure trove of positive things that need our attention. That way, when things make us sad, we can force ourselves to work on one of the many positive things we have lined up until we forget about the sadness. After doing this for long enough, it becomes second nature and we aren’t forcing ourselves anymore. Our brains simply choose all the good stuff without being deceived. Before I started writing and coaching, my escape was basketball. I’d go to the park and shoot around until I wasn’t sad anymore. This worked because basketball brings my so much joy that I can focus on being good at it. I still do on this occasion.

 

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I’d love to hear your stories about how you’ve used these techniques. What is your “Go-To”  positive activity?

 

Nov 18

FREE eBook – What Happened to my *** New *** Products Section?

cover_pencilWhat Happened to my *** New *** Products Section?

I’ve decided to start a promotion for my new book, “Onboarding – the Right Way“, using the “KDP Select” service that Amazon.com offers for eBooks.

The bad news is that Amazon KDP Select requires exclusivity, so I had to remove the ability to purchase my eBook from my blog for the next 90 days.

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But the GREAT news is that I’m offering my eBook for FREE on Amazon ONLY UNTIL November 22, 2014. You can click the image of my book cover to the left to get to my Amazon page, even after this FREE promotion
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Those of you without a Kindle device can rest easy.

  • Amazon offers a Kindle reader for Windows, so it should be no problem to read my book on your computer after grabbing your copy from Amazon. The reader can be downloaded by clicking this link. 

  • You also have the option of a Free Kindle Reading App for mobile devices. Just click the image of my book to the left and then look for the “Free Kindle Reading App” section on my Amazon page.

                                                                                         As always, I appreciate your continued support. Happy reading!

 

Oct 12

Sharing what “I Believe” Through my New Book on Amazon/Kindle

 cover_pencilMy first eBook, “Onboarding – The Right Way”  is now also available on Amazon/Kindle!

I’m very proud of the content and I’m excited for the value it will help you implement in your professional lives.

Here are some things I believe:

I believe that everyone wins in business when we foster partnerships and fairness .

I believe that treating people like humans instead of task-oriented robots can uncover incredible innovation.

I believe that if we resist the urge to rush to solutions, and consider people’s feelings as we go, we can savor an amazing journey of learning from others.

I believe employees should never feel lost and confused at a new job.

I believe everyone deserves professional fulfillment.

Here is how I want to turn my beliefs to action:

I want to help people make simple changes so they can be happy, comfortable, and productive in situations where I wasn’t.

I want to bring back respect for people’s capabilities to the workplace instead of making them prove how well they can work under duress.

So I’ve made it my mission to treat people like humans whose opinions matter, so they become more confident and fulfilled versions of themselves.

These are the things I believe and how I want to accomplish them. I just so happen to also write compelling books.

If you believe what I believe, I’d love to share this action plan with you. I’m confident you will be surprised by the amount of value you get for this small price.

Click here to Purchase Kindle Version on Amazon. 

I can’t thank you enough for all your support.

 

Oct 09

My First eBook is Now available! Onboarding – The Right Way

Onboarding - the Right Way

My First eBook is Now available!

For those of you who follow www.russobusinessconsulting.com, you are aware of the drive I have for fostering partnerships and fairness in business.

I write with a theme that treating people like humans instead of task-oriented robots can uncover incredible innovation.

If we resist the urge to rush to solutions ignoring people’s feelings as we go, we can savor an amazing journey of learning from others. In my years as a professional, I’ve been in situations where I was lost and confused at a new job, and I don’t wish these feelings on anyone. It took me years to get to a place of professional fulfillment. I feel like simple changes can help people be comfortable, productive, and fulfilled in the workplace. All I want to do is help people make these simple changes so they can be happy and productive in situations where I wasn’t.

So I’ve made it my mission to treat people like humans whose opinions matter, so they become more confident and fulfilled versions of themselves.

My first eBook, “Onboarding – The Right Way” is now available for purchase. I’m very proud of the content and I’m excited for the value it will help you implement in your professional lives.

I plan to keep making more great information available in the weeks and months to come!

Please click this link to access my eBook.

I can’t thank you enough for all your support.

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